First impressions our important. They can be the difference between making a new best friend and looking like a weirdo so when someone says to me, “Tell me about yourself,” I want to have a good answer. I want to be open, honest, and interesting without appearing too strange, different, or disconnected. Being too equanimous can be a little boring. So how do I discuss my meditation practice?
Many people are interested in meditation, vegetarianism, and new perspectives. Some stay interested when I talk about a daily meditation practice, taking a 10 day meditation course, and talking about buddhism. Most people start pulling out the weirdo flag if I get too excited talking about the entire course being silent, focusing on the upper lip for hours at a time, that I meditate 2 hours a day, or if I express that I don’t really understand how the technique works but I’m still trusting it in transforming my life.
I can go with some more acceptable answers by talking about being a biology graduate student. I can usually say something cool about biomechanics but then I need to talk about work and who wants that? I huge part of connection is being excited about who you are and the life that you’re living so I need to figure out a way to go beyond the surface level without coming across too strong.
Of course there’s also the “I don’t care what you think, this is who I am,” method. This certainly weeds a lot of conversations that I’m not interested in having. The trouble is that I’ve started a new job and am creating a new social network so I don’t want to seem conceded.
I think I need to use my old hobbies as my power card. I can get excited talking about some of the awesome backpacking or travelling I’ve done. That reminds me. I need to get back to doing more awesome backpacking and travelling. This way I have an interesting fun topic to discuss with new friends. I can test the waters with meditation discussions but I don’t need to share all of my secrets right off the bat. Okay, time to begin operation “I’m a Vipassana meditator but I’m still a normal fun person.” Time to make some new friends!